Control runs so deep that we believe that “surrender” is learning enough about our design so that we can use it to get what our mind wants.

A new form of control. A new addiction to feed the not self agenda.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love Human Design, Gene Keys, & other modalities.  The difference is the energy we approach it with, which either leads to deconditioning or creating a not self world illusion of “alignment”.

For perfectionists & high performers our brain also does an incredible job of convincing us that this is completely normal because if we just have THAT thing, achieve that milestone, accomplish that goal then we will be happy.

Yet, the more we grip, control, & force the harder things get. And the faster the goal posts move.

And this isn’t something you just heal & move past.  You are not broken.  All parts of us have a place on the bus, it is our bus afterall.  The point of this existence is not to transcend the human experience or even sanitize the human experience.

The shift becomes putting the water eye (intuition, receiving) above the fire eye (intellect, action), allowing your strategy & authority to truly lead you so that you can simply enjoy the movie & take the CORRECT action.

I remember in grade school being pulled out of class one day & having a teacher tell me that I needed to be easier on myself.  That being a perfectionist was causing me stress.  From the time I was a kid I had this deep need to control, and likely it was because I didn’t feel safe due to home life.  If I just did good enough, achieved enough, performed high enough things at home would be… Better.

It was also what drove my obsession with Psychology.

The problem is it was never enough, and I was never happy in this state, as nothing external can create lasting happiness & fulfillment.  The achievements & milestones would pile up & barely a breath after accomplishing it I was on to the next thing.

Living our design & living a life of passenger consciousness is not something you can think your way to or force to happen. The paradox of it all is that as soon as you release control & open up to what was always meant for you things finally begin to flow.

This is a journey.  A journey of surrender, healing the nervous system, rewiring neural pathways & beginning to find safety in your body again.

A journey I am honoured to guide clients on.

That journey is not a quick fix, however it is worth every second as you finally, as Ra would say, “get your life back”.  This, of course, does not mean you stop achieving.  Achievement is a pillar of flourishing in Positive Psychology.  We simply being awareness to what is leading:

The fire eye or water eye.

So, the question becomes: Can you trust that when you surrender control you actually DO MORE, receive more, & accomplish more than through control?

As surrender does not mean doing nothing. It means:

Doing nothing outside your own nature so that you do without doing & everything gets done from a state of flow. 

I am here to support you in that. DM to discuss 1:1 & mastermind options. 

ABE